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25 February 2010
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1. What do you want to have?
The majority of people have very little idea about what it is that they want. However, they do know that what they currently have is not what they want to have. If you were to stop and put aside what it is that you don't want and only focus on what you want, what would it be? In general, there are two kinds of motivation - away from and towards to. In order for you to be motivated away from or towards to something, you have to be aware of something that will motivate you. If there is nothing to be aware of, then there is no motion.
Most people are aware of what they don't want and they constantly move away from it. However, in order for them to keep moving they have to keep noticing that which they move away from. The more they notice, the more they move away from. The more they move away from, the more they notice. Thus, if you keep on moving away from something without clearly defining what it is that you want, you will eventually return to what it is that you do not want. So, what is it that you do want to have ?
2. What do you have to do in order to get what you want to have?
There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path. Knowing what you want is different from getting what you want. At this point I am not talking about sitting all day at home and visualizing a successful future. What I mean is - what do have to do or stop doing in order to get what you want to have?
3. What do you need to know in order to be able to do?
You now know what you need to do but do you know how to do it? Sometime people lack certain knowledge or skills that they need in order to be able to do something. Maybe you need to read a manual or a book, finish a course, watch a video or do a research. Be sure that you know what you are doing before you will invest your time, energy or money into it.
4. Who do you need to get in contact with in order to know, do and have?
Your goal is to establish contacts with people who will help you to know or do that which will help you to get what you want to have. It can be a long or a quick process, but other people will often have resources or knowledge that will help you. Who and where do you have to meet or associate with?
5. Who do I need to lose contact with?
Do you often get a phone call from Bob or meet with Susan who constantly tell you how bad things are? Do you often act as a caring person for others and you listen to them for hours only to feel bad yourself at the end? Perhaps it is time to lose contact with people who constantly waste your time and energy. Limit yourself so that you will only talk to these people on Christmas and their birthday. Minimize the amount of time you spend with people who are not moving anywhere in life.
Your brain works by using the principle of associative memory - neurons that fire together, wire together. Every time you see, hear or feel something the brain interprets the signal by referring to your long term memory trying to find related information. Your long term memory consists of a neural network. Specific parts of this network are stimulated when you experience or remember something. For example, do you ever get an unpleasant feeling when you see someone bleeding from a paper cut ? Your brain interprets what it perceives by stimulating the neurons associated with the paper cut. Those neurons are further connected to pain which also gets triggered. Thus you get an uncomfortable feeling only by watching someone else get a paper cut.
Every time you hear or see something negative, sad or unpleasant, your brain triggers associated memories and experience. The more you talk or hear about negative, the more you stimulate the negative connections of your neural. Neurons that fire together, wire together. The more you do this the stronger the neural connection becomes and the easier it becomes for your brain to recreate negative feelings. Your environment is constantly programming you.
So, what are you answers to these questions?
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