Cognitive Self-Statements

Posted on March 24th, 2014

Self-Control and change

Because I often make myself undisciplined and self-defeating by demanding that I absolutely must have immediate gratifications, I can give up my short-range “needs”—look for the pleasure of today and tomorrow—and seek life satisfactions in a disciplined way.


I am a worthwhile person with positive and negative traits.

High frustration tolerance

Nothing is terrible or awful, only at worst highly inconvenient. I can stand serious frustrations and adversity, even though I never have to like them.

Acceptance of others

All human beings are fellible,and therefore I can accept that people will make mistakes and do wrong acts. I can accept them with their mistakes and poor behaviors and refuse to denigrate them as human beings.


I prefer to perform well and win approval of significant others, but I never have to do so to prove that I am a worthwhile person.

Needing approval and love

It is highly preferable to be approved of, to be loved by significant people, and to have good social skills. But if I am disapproved of, I can still fully accept myself and lead an enjoyable life.

Accepting responsibility

It is hard to face and deal with life’s difficulties and responsibilities, but ignoring them and copping out is in the long run is much harder. Biting the bullet and facing the problems of life usually become easier and more rewarding if I keep working at it.

Accepting self-direction

I prefer to have some caring and reliable people to depend on, but I do not need to be dependent on such people. Nor do I have to find someone stronger than me to rely on.


If I fail at work, school, or some other setting, it is not a reflection on my whole being. (My whole being includes how I am as a friend, spouse, etc., as well as qualities of helpfulness, kindness, etc.). Furthermore, failure is not a permanent condition.


Hodge, D. R., & Nadir, A. (2008). Moving toward Culturally Competent Practice with Muslims: Modifying Cognitive Therapy with Islamic Tenets. Social Work, 53(1), 31-41.

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